Attending more births

I have attended 2 more births in the past month.  I have completely fallen in love with being a doula.  It is so amazing to watch the transformation of the mom and dad as they become parents.  Seeing their baby for the first time.  Falling in love with their baby, learning how life changes after having a child.

One of my favorite things is watching the dad be so supportive of mom through out labor.  He is often the unsung hero during labor and birth.  There by her side throughout hours of labor, up all night.  Willingly waiting to help her in anyway he can.  The loving touch of a husband calms the mom during labor, their eyes locked, he is able to breathe with her though the contractions.  It is amazing to see their bond grow.

I have seen a birth that went as smooth as you can imagine.  In my clients prenatal appointment she described her ideal birth, and she had exactly that.  I was so impressed by her positive attitude through out her labor.  Her husband was a wonderful support to her.

I have seen a birth that did not go as planned.  She faced so many obstacles, and was able to stay positive and have a good experience, even if things did not go the way she planned.  I learned how to support a woman who has an epidural and a traumatic birth, both during and after. I learned how to work in a group with dad, mom, and sister.  I saw the look in a mothers eyes when she sees her child is here safe, as she comforts his cries and falls in love.

These two experiences have been amazing for me.  Babies are so special to me, so sweet and adorable.  I love getting the opportunity to hold these little ones.

The more you know the less you say

One of the most eye opening things I have learned is the more you know the less you say. I used to always be interjecting myself and saying oh well I know this or that about birth. I felt like I was a little expert. But as I have learned more from classes, reading, and actual experiences, I don't say as much. I realize now how different every persons situation is. I have learned how to let others discover things for themselves. If asked I am happy to give of my knowledge. But I know that often times it is better to wait and be asked.